An operator mentioned to me recently that, since lockdown, there seem to be far more 'Karens'. While this might surprise some customers, there’s a valid point—not about complaints themselves, but about how much more demanding customers have become. Back in 2000, when I opened my first bar, we stood out with premium products and exceptional service. Simple actions like clearing ashtrays, quick service, and genuine smiles created unforgettable experiences, turning guests into a loyal community. Today, customers are savvier, expectations are higher, and competition is tougher. But true hospitality isn’t just about food and drink—it’s about creating a sense of belonging. Independent businesses succeed when they forge meaningful connections that no home setup or discount can replicate.
If You’re Paying for Loyalty, It’s Not Loyalty
Loyalty Isn’t About Transactions—It’s About Connection
In my 30 years in hospitality, I’ve seen loyalty shift from meaningful gestures to mere transactions. Decades ago, offering a free coffee or a bottle of prosecco for a birthday felt special—a heartfelt way to thank customers. Now, these gestures are tick-box exercises, part of the cost of doing business.
True loyalty isn’t built on loyalty cards or discounts; it’s about forming deep emotional bonds where customers feel they belong. Loyal customers stay longer, spend more, and become your advocates. The key? Focus on meaningful relationships, not more customers. Build your tribe, not your mailing list.
5-Star Reviews Are Useless: Why Your Loyal Customers Don’t Care About TripAdvisor
Are 5-star reviews truly a sign of customer loyalty, or are they just a fleeting moment of validation? While glowing reviews can attract new customers, they often come from first-time visitors rather than your loyal tribe. Your most devoted customers—those who visit regularly, value your experience beyond price, and share your story with others—don’t need to post online to show their support. True loyalty is built on trust, connection, and the role your business plays in their lives. Measuring loyalty requires a deeper understanding of your purpose and aligning your values with those who matter most. Are you focusing on the right metrics?
Crabs in a Bucket: Why the Hospitality Industry Is Stuck and How to Break Free
Why Hospitality Businesses Are Stuck in a Crab Bucket
The hospitality industry is overcrowded, competitive, and facing rising costs. Many businesses, afraid to stand out, fall into the trap of copying what others are doing—offering identical menus, services, and experiences. This creates a sea of sameness, where customers see no reason to choose one venue over another.
The opportunity lies in being purpose-driven. Customers today crave unique, meaningful experiences and spaces where they feel a sense of belonging. By reconnecting with your purpose and offering something different, you can break free from the crab bucket, stand out, and become the place customers truly love. Is your business purpose-driven? Take our quiz to find out.
Why Hospitality Feels Like Home
Hospitality is more than just an industry; it’s where many of us first learned to thrive. It’s a place where every role matters, from entry-level to leadership, and where teamwork is key to delivering exceptional customer experiences. For young people, it’s often the first taste of belonging—a family that values effort and care. It teaches responsibility, discipline, and the joy of serving others. Hospitality gives us purpose: knowing a simple act, like a smile or kind word, can transform someone’s day. Yes, it’s challenging, but for those who love it, the rewards—connection, growth, and purpose—make it all worthwhile.
Stop Underestimating Small Businesses: What Really Makes My Blood Boil
As a small business owner in the hospitality industry for over 25 years, there's one thing that still makes my blood boil—the assumption that small businesses need the expertise of big corporate CEOs to succeed. While larger companies have their strengths, small business owners are constantly innovating, learning on the job, and building deep customer relationships. We don’t have vast resources or teams of specialists, but we do have creativity, resilience, and a sense of purpose that drives us forward. Small business entrepreneurs are scrappy because we have to be, finding solutions with limited resources and pushing boundaries through experimentation. It’s time to recognize that the real innovation and exciting talent in the hospitality industry often come from these small operators, not the corporate boardroom. At Kith & Kin, we celebrate this scrappiness and provide a space where hospitality professionals can come together, share ideas, and support each other.